6 Steps to Help Your Child Learn to Solve Problems Independently

Throughout our lives, we are constantly faced with problems to solve—sometimes big, sometimes small. This challenge is part of our daily experience, and children are no exception.

Problem-solving skills begin developing in infancy, as surprising as that may sound. When a baby loses their pacifier and tries to locate it, they are already engaging in problem-solving.

Why is problem-solving important for children?

Problem-solving is one of the highest-level cognitive skills. Its development is closely linked to emotional regulation and the overall shaping of our personality.

Children who struggle with problem-solving often adopt either a passive stance (avoiding the problem) or an impulsive one (reacting without thinking of the consequences). For instance, a child may hit another for taking their toy.

6 Steps to Help Your Child Learn to Solve Problems Independently

1. Clearly state what the problem is.

2. Provide honest, age-appropriate information about the issue—without offering ready-made solutions.

3. Ask your child what they think the solution might be.

4. Listen to all their ideas, even if not all of them seem like good options.

5. Discuss together the pros and cons of each idea.

6. Choose one solution and try it out. If it doesn’t work, go back and revisit the previous step.

Our attitude toward problems shapes the child’s attitude

The way we deal with problems greatly influences how our children approach them. Some people see problems as a negative disruption, while others see them as an opportunity for growth. The choice is ours—and our example will shape the child’s mindset for life.

Maria Lazarou
Speech and Language Therapist (SLP, BSc, M.A.)
Head of the Multidisciplinary Team, Evlogon